This passage – along with many others like it across the gospels – is a challenge for many of us who have asked, sought, knocked and have not been given what we want. Think of how many things you have prayed for that have not gone the way you hoped or expected. But God does not always answer our prayers the way we expect.
Many of us have been taught false things about prayer. “If you don’t ask, you won’t receive.” “If you use specific words and language, you will receive.” “If you pray hard enough and REALLY believe God will answer your prayer as you desire.”
If you don’t ask, you won’t receive. But what about those who don’t ask and still receive? What about the birds of the air and the flowers of the field? Jesus tells us not to worry, and to trust, which certainly cuts against this false teaching.
“If you use specific words and language, you will receive.” God is not an ATM, and prayer is not a formula. God is a Person, who seeks relationship with us.
“If you pray hard enough and REALLY believe God will answer your prayer as you desire.” God does not want us to grovel. God is inherently good and desires to give things to His children. You don’t HAVE to ask. but God would like us to because that means we’re communicating with Him. God is not an ATM of riches.
Jesus addresses this question towards the end of the Sermon on the Mount, in the context of his teaching on prayer, his teaching on worry, and his teaching on the love of God.
We should ask God questions – the answers may not all come in this life, but we can trust that He will ultimately answer. We should seek Him and His gifts. We can trust that He will give us good gifts, even when we do not understand them when we receive them, even when they are not the gifts that we wanted.
God plants seeds even in the midst of sorrow and challenge. Even if we don’t fully understand how or why He does some things, answers some prayers but does not answer others, we can trust that His gifts are good. We can trust that He wants to hear from us, wants us to ask, seek and knock, because He loves us and gives good gifts to his children.
— Sermon Notes, Amanda Moffat, Renew Church, Lynnwood WA, July 6, 2025